1. Cry, Yell, and Grieve The first step can make you feel like you are taking a few steps back, but it is necessary. I think when something happens that reroutes your entire life and the direction you were going previously, it is normal to grieve and be sad. Because I believe that whenever you go through a difficult time, it changes you. It changes the way you think and perceive things, and the first step to acceptance of the new reality, whatever it is, is to mourn the past and the person you used to be. So, let yourself grieve for as long as you need to, and when you're able, you'll find the next step.
2. Talk When You’re Ready Sometimes you feel like talking things through and sometimes you don't. When you're ready to talk, find someone who you can talk to as an equal and whose opinion you value, and pour your heart out tothem. Sometimes, just having someone who cares and who is there for you no matter what, gives you the boost you need, to leave the first step, (even though you may still feel the need to grieve from time to time).
3. Escape When You Need To but not too often. Sometimes life just takes a dump on you, and your heart and mind are too full to process things in a healthy way. In these moments, escape is essential; watch a TV show or movie, read abook, or veg out on the internet. Take a break from the things that are weighing you down, and come back to them laterwith a fresh outlook.
4. Start Small: If the big things are too overwhelming at any given moment, start small. Instead of worrying about a huge appointment next week that you're afraid might hold bad news (perhaps similar to where you just were) try to focus on smaller more attainable goals. Rather than brooding about the appointment, focus on your exercises, your chores, oreven your homework assignments. You'll get there in the same amount of time, whether or not you worry about it.
5. Find Your Muse: Your muse is the source of your inspiration.Find the thing, or things, that inspire you the most, and absorb them into your world. These could be anything. For some, it could be their children, others music or nature, and for people like me, poetry or literature.
6. Reach Out: Interaction is an important thing in any person’s life. Reaching out doesn't necessarily mean telling everyone about your struggles, rather it means finding people you enjoy, and spending time with them. It can meanlaughing and teasing each other, but it also means support. Maybe not support like that of step two, but support that letsyou know that they care and that they're thinking of you. This kind of support is a bulwark that can bolster you throughany storm. These are the people who know how to cheer you on, when you’re going through a hard time.
7. Channel Your Nervous Energy: Often you may find yourself stressing out and worrying. The best way to preventthis is to throw yourself headlong into another project, albeit a more relaxing one
8. Help Someone Else: Helping someone else is actually a great way to help you deal with tough things that are going on in your own life. It may sound selfish, in an ironic way. But not only does helping someone through their problems distract you, it also fills you with a pleasant satisfaction. Plain and simple; it feels good to help someone else out.
9. Focus on the Good Things: If you go through life with a “woe is me” attitude, things can seem harder than they really are. Granted, I'm finding that optimism comes more easily to me than most, but I cannot help but feel that some optimism is imperative to dealing with any situation. By focusing on the good things in your life, you can muster up enough strength to hope.
10. Take One Day At a Time: This is one that you've heard me repeat time and time again on here. We spend so much time worrying about things that are so far in the future, that we miss the things that are happening in the moment. Even if the moment you are in seems difficult, and there are things upon the horizon that seem even more difficult, it is important to focus on the moment you are in. We can't worry about things that haven't happened yet, or that may or may not happen. If you must worry, worry about the day you are in, and worry about tomorrow.
2. Talk When You’re Ready Sometimes you feel like talking things through and sometimes you don't. When you're ready to talk, find someone who you can talk to as an equal and whose opinion you value, and pour your heart out tothem. Sometimes, just having someone who cares and who is there for you no matter what, gives you the boost you need, to leave the first step, (even though you may still feel the need to grieve from time to time).
3. Escape When You Need To but not too often. Sometimes life just takes a dump on you, and your heart and mind are too full to process things in a healthy way. In these moments, escape is essential; watch a TV show or movie, read abook, or veg out on the internet. Take a break from the things that are weighing you down, and come back to them laterwith a fresh outlook.
4. Start Small: If the big things are too overwhelming at any given moment, start small. Instead of worrying about a huge appointment next week that you're afraid might hold bad news (perhaps similar to where you just were) try to focus on smaller more attainable goals. Rather than brooding about the appointment, focus on your exercises, your chores, oreven your homework assignments. You'll get there in the same amount of time, whether or not you worry about it.
5. Find Your Muse: Your muse is the source of your inspiration.Find the thing, or things, that inspire you the most, and absorb them into your world. These could be anything. For some, it could be their children, others music or nature, and for people like me, poetry or literature.
6. Reach Out: Interaction is an important thing in any person’s life. Reaching out doesn't necessarily mean telling everyone about your struggles, rather it means finding people you enjoy, and spending time with them. It can meanlaughing and teasing each other, but it also means support. Maybe not support like that of step two, but support that letsyou know that they care and that they're thinking of you. This kind of support is a bulwark that can bolster you throughany storm. These are the people who know how to cheer you on, when you’re going through a hard time.
7. Channel Your Nervous Energy: Often you may find yourself stressing out and worrying. The best way to preventthis is to throw yourself headlong into another project, albeit a more relaxing one
8. Help Someone Else: Helping someone else is actually a great way to help you deal with tough things that are going on in your own life. It may sound selfish, in an ironic way. But not only does helping someone through their problems distract you, it also fills you with a pleasant satisfaction. Plain and simple; it feels good to help someone else out.
9. Focus on the Good Things: If you go through life with a “woe is me” attitude, things can seem harder than they really are. Granted, I'm finding that optimism comes more easily to me than most, but I cannot help but feel that some optimism is imperative to dealing with any situation. By focusing on the good things in your life, you can muster up enough strength to hope.
10. Take One Day At a Time: This is one that you've heard me repeat time and time again on here. We spend so much time worrying about things that are so far in the future, that we miss the things that are happening in the moment. Even if the moment you are in seems difficult, and there are things upon the horizon that seem even more difficult, it is important to focus on the moment you are in. We can't worry about things that haven't happened yet, or that may or may not happen. If you must worry, worry about the day you are in, and worry about tomorrow.
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